Hey Friend -
Amidst the festive frenzy of the holiday season, it’s easy to get swept up in the whirlwind of perfectionism! Perhaps it's buying the perfect gift, preparing the ideal meal, and having all go according to plan for the big party. Being human is messy, so there will be mistakes and disappointments.
Therefore, prioritizing self-compassion becomes increasingly vital during these chaotic times.
Self-compassion involves treating oneself with kindness, warmth, and forgiveness, even when we make mistakes or fall short of our expectations.
It's about acknowledging our imperfections without judgment, extending the same understanding to ourselves as we would to a cherished friend or family member. Yet, between the pressure we put on ourselves to be exude constant cheer, a bustling social schedule, and the challenges of complex relationships, the holidays can leave us feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and tired.
Practicing self-compassion can help:
✨Manage stress and anxiety: Nurturing a kind and understanding relationship with ourselves enables us to stay composed and centered, even in adversity.
✨Improve our mood and boost self-esteem: Embracing our flaws fosters positive emotions and a more optimistic outlook on our lives.
✨Build stronger relationships. When we're kind and understanding towards ourselves, we're more likely to treat others the same way. This can lead to more fulfilling relationships with our loved ones.
Following are three tips for practicing self-compassion during the holidays:
1. Be gentle with yourself: Everyone makes mistakes and has setbacks. Don't beat yourself up if you don't get everything perfect. When struggling, acknowledge the pain (without judgement), talk to yourself in the same caring way you would talk to a dear friend, then offer yourself what you need in the challenging moment. Perhaps it's gentle words of encouragement, a comforting touch, or a connection with a friend. Be patient and supportive. This takes practice!
2. Accept your imperfections: Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all. We all share this common humanity and being human is messy!
3. Take care of yourself: Ensure you get enough sleep, eat nourishing foods, move your body, and take moments throughout the day to reset (even five deep breaths!). Taking care of your physical and mental well-being is essential!
Cheers to a self-compassionate and joyful holiday season!